01 Sep 2025 - I Am on MAJOR Pain Pills
01 September 2025
| Dear Dr. Romance: I Am on MAJOR Pain Pills
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a 49 year old disabled vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was a female discharge, I have checked with three nurses all have said it had to be ejaculate.
We sleep on a king size bed never touching unless she tries to push me out. About a yr ago
'while she was sleeping' she grabbed my penis and YANKED it till it went popping noise then she said worthless and rolled over and started snoring again. Since that moment I have not been able to ejaculate. I can still get a little hard but then have to pee. Any advise? We have two grown kids.
Dear Reader:
I'm sorry to hear about your pain and injury. I hope you will go to the Veteran's Administration for help. I can read signs of post-traumatic stress in what you write.
Your relationship with your wife sounds way too hostile. No healthy sex can happen in such an angry atmosphere. I have no way of judging what's real in what you're telling me, and what's your displaced anger from your pain and trauma. Please contact the Veteran's Administration and tell them you think you have PTS.
They know a lot more about how to help you than they did when you were injured. In the meantime, you'll get some help from "Anger Management" "Drama, Trauma, and Time Travel" "From Struggling to Solving" and What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship? How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together will help you learn better relationship skills. 52 Weeks to Better Mental Health: A guided Workbook for Self-exploration and Growth will help you achieve better mental balance.
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Tina B. Tessina
Long Beach, CA
Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT, "Dr. Romance" is a licensed psychotherapist and author of 18 books (and counting!) in 16 languages.
Find her on the web at https://tinatessina.com/
