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The Top Three from the Top One, February 5, 2008
"I love the entire book. Dr. Tessina is one of those gifted people who write like she is peering straight into people’s souls. I like very much how she shares personal asides, and tips that work in her own marriage. I like her focus on using humor and even silliness too. I've noticed how that can work with most people most of the time. I also like the weekly family meeting ideas.
I love the comments, the guidelines, the therapist’s statement of ethics and the guidelines for selecting a therapist. This is soooo valuable for my students who seek counseling.
I've always taught that the three biggest reasons couples seek help are Money, Sex and Communication. A more accurate statement would be that it is a thread of communication that runs through the topics—which are; money, sex and kids that determines a relationship's success. HOW you communicate determines your success. This book is an excellent manual/training guide!
Dr. Tessina’s emphasis on humor reflects a lot of what's right about the world. Charlie Chaplin said: “Life may be a tragedy in the close up, but it is a comedy in the long shot.” He would have liked this book.
Tina does it again! More great advice from Dr. Romance
By Aostara Kaye “Star”
I am a never-married, childless, only child. My fiancé is a divorced middle-child with custody of his young son. We have different opinions on and experiences with, well, just about everything. MONEY, SEX AND KIDS has taught us how to use this diversity to our mutual benefit.
The techniques, skills and mindsets laid out in this book (and in Tina's earlier book How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free, Third Edition) have enabled us to negotiate cooperative solutions to our problems rather than focusing on who is “right.” Tina's combinations of specific real-life examples and general tips and tools have given us the ability to greatly reduce the potential for arguments, needless struggle and heartache in our relationship.
I'm particularly happy with how the “Struggle-Situation-Solution” continuum trains couples to get past the immediate “sound and fury” and discover what the argument is REAALLY about, which is the only place true cooperative problem solving can take place.
Thanks to Tina (and my fiancé's cooperation, of course), I've gone from thinking that our differences could quite possibly be insurmountable to planning for a moving day later this year. Help other customers find the most helpful reviews
Help for your relationship,
By “Dr. Romance”
As a licensed marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I work with couples every day who are struggling with these three marriage problems; money, sex and kids. I wrote this book for couples who want to end the fighting, and build a successful partnership. To make it more effective, I put in case histories of couples (names changed, of course) I've worked with, as well as exercises, guidelines and the most up-to-date information on what makes relationships succeed. If you're struggling with your partner, this book will help you navigate the rough waters of intimacy, and learn how to sail smoothly together. I hope you enjoy it, and I'd love to hear from you at email@example.com
A Book for ALL Married Couples Who Want to Stay That Way
By Elaine Shimberg
Prolific non-fiction writer Tina Tessina, Ph.D. has written many books on women and relationships. But she really hits the bull’s-eye with MONEY,SEX, and KIDS: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.
Although she states that “raising kids is the most complicated, puzzling, and hopefully rewarding job a couple can have,” she goes on to honestly admit that “the fights about children can be the most intense and complex.” Fortunately, she then describes ways that couples can work together to compromise in solving those issues.
She also lists skills that are necessary to learn in order to create a “truly loving partnership.” As a licensed psychotherapist since 1978, Dr. Tessina carefully presents the struggle and the situation first, and then offers the solution to money, sex, and kids squabbles.
If this book were among the gifts given at engagement parties and appeared on book shelves of married folks, perhaps our sad statistics of divorce among first, second, and even third marriages could be reduced.
Reviewed by Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of BLENDING FAMILIES and co-author of THE COMPLETE SINGLE FATHER. Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D.